Gynecomastia In Men
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Male Breast Cancer
Body Dysmorphic Disorder
|Living with Gynecomastia -
Not every male who has gynemycastia is in a rush to remove their breasts. I first started developing breasts at the age of 13, and I suppose because I was brought up by a single mother who was a raving feminist, nobody told me anything was wrong. I have what I call 'screwy genetics', which means that technically I am neither male or female. Thus I am producing more estrogen than testosterone. Something like that. It never bothered me much to find out. I really don't have problem with accepting my body, rather I have a problem with the way some narrow minded people react to it.
Gynecomastia is a naturally occurring medical condition, so people with it should not have to feel guilty, or put up with ill treatment by society.
Reactions from people
It never ceases to amaze me that people react in such a negative way to what is essentially something I was born with. Do you hassle blind people because they are blind? Do you discriminate against people with an extra finger? (There are many races of people on Earth where most of the population have extra fingers) Do you assault people because they don't look the way you like?
Some of the worst reactions come from doctors. I am quite fed up with doctors who want to run a whole series of tests on my. They really won't take no for an answer some of them. I have had to tell several doctors where to go because of this. I am not a Guinea Pig for their personal use.
Surgery - no way
Besides that, there is the cost. If I had a few thousand dollars spare I think I'd take a holiday, I certainly deserve one.
Then there is the pain factor. Breast surgery is apparently quite painful and I hate pain.
Living with Gynemycastia.
Well of course I wear a bra. Just as women wear a bra to ensure comfort and health of their breasts, so do I. And just as women do, I also choose bras for their looks as well as comfort. As seen in the images below, my breasts can do with some support.
It took me a while to work up the nerve to ask for a proper fitting, but was pleased that I did. The store lady was very helpful. I got a correct fitting and some good tips and suggestions. I also managed to get some really comfortable bras as result. Now I go into stores and have no worries about using the fitting rooms to try on a bra. For those guys out there with the same problem I suggest you head for the change rooms with a couple of mens cloths items and the bras. The change room attendant will probably think you are buying something for a wife or girlfriend. As long as you put the bras back on the hooks right afterwards and take the male items off of their hangers no one will know the difference.
Because my breasts are so large they do show up through a t shirt, so I occasionally do wear baggy clothing to cover them up, but only when visiting some of the dodgier parts of the city. Other times I don't bother. I do get the occasional stare, but ignore it. In summer it gets up to 45 degrees Celsius so wearing a tight T-shirt or leotard under an outer T-shirt is just too hot. I used to do this, but I figured it was bad for my health. Why should I fry myself silly for other people's benefit? So now I juste wear a bra under a T-shirt.
I have had one person comment about it, saying it was 'distracting' in a work environment, but I pointed out that not wearing a bra would result in my nipples sticking right out the T-shirt, and that since he never made comments about that to the female employees, he was discriminating against me. I then politely pointed out that my condition was not something I had caused, and that living my life was difficult enough without an unwarranted hassle from him. I carefully explained some of the points I have outlined above, and he came to understand my situation.
What is normal? What does a normal person look like?
I consider myself to be pretty normal. I admit I have some weird ideas of humor an take part in some strange extreme sports but I figure I look as normal as can be. Then again I think I have a wider perception of normal than most people. But wouldn't the world be a better place if we all stopped to review our own perceptions of the world? Narrow mindedness is an enemy of all minorities.
Pictures of my breasts from a side view
From the front
With a T-shirt As can be seen my breasts are reasonably obvious. Not easy to hide in hot weather.
Wearing a typical bra. I normally choose them for comfort.
I used to love swimming but as can be seen, my breasts tend to be a bit obvious in a swim suit.
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